Still moved 3 years later

July 25th, 2008

3 years ago, for their Father’s Day issue, Rick Reilly wrote a short article for Sports Illustrated, that became for many, “the most inspiring story I’ve ever heard.” You’ve probably read it by now. There’s also a video on YouTube that’s been viewed over 9,000,000 times and has over 5,000 comments (that, by the way, continue to trickle in on a daily basis). So why would I bother to post it again here today. After all blogs are supposed to be commentary on the latest and greatest stuff, right?

All I can say is that we’re in the business of moving people. And when, for random reasons, I came across this article again today, I was struck by how much it moved me still… 3 years later.

So if you happen to be one of the few who’s never heard of Dick Hoyt, and have somehow managed to never come across his story as it has bounced around in cyber space, then I’m happy to be the one to share it with you. Prepare to be moved (and have a hanky nearby for the video at the end). If you’ve seen it already, even 5, 10, 15 times… then here’s hoping it gives you yet again a daily dose of inspiration, which is never a bad thing. Oh yeah, you’ll probably still need a hanky too. I certainly did.

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“The Strongest Dad in the World”
by Rick Reilly
Sports Illustrated, June 20 2005

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he’s pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he’s not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars–all in the same day.

Dick’s also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much–except save his life.
This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

“He’ll be a vegetable the rest of his life;” Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. “Put him in an Institution.”

But the Hoyts weren’t buying it. They noticed the way Rick’s eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the Engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. “No way,” Dick says he was told. “There’s nothing going on in his brain.”

“Tell him a joke,” Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a Lot was going on in his brain. Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? “Go Bruins!” And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, “Dad, I want to do that.”

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described “porker” who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. “Then it was me who was handicapped,” Dick says. “I was sore for two weeks.”

That day changed Rick’s life. “Dad,” he typed, “when we were running, It felt like I wasn’t disabled anymore!”

And that sentence changed Dick’s life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly Shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

“No way,” Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren’t quite a single runner, and they weren’t quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, “Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?”

How’s a guy who never learned to swim and hadn’t ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they’ve done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don’t you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you’d do on your own? “No way,” he says. Dick does it purely for “the awesome feeling” he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992–only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don’t keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

“No question about it,” Rick types. “My dad is the Father of the Century.”

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. “If you hadn’t been in such great shape,” one doctor told him, “you probably would’ve died 15 years ago.” So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other’s life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father’s Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

“The thing I’d most like,” Rick types, “is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once.”

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Here’s the link to video on YouTube

Other posts by Justine.

12 Responses to “Still moved 3 years later”

  1. Philippe says:

    Oh my god. Thanks for sharing this. It’s moving and inspiring!

  2. BIG Kahuna says:

    This is the same Rick Reilly who said they were to many “white people” playing in the MLB Home Run Derby a few weeks ago. He was later corrected on his facts as he learned a lot of non white people declined invitations to play. So I guess they had to settle for white people.

    Then of course he said this:
    http://www.brandidentityguru.com/wordpress/?p=747

    Rick Reilly is not cool. His true colors came out at the Home Run Derby. Search through the recent blog articles on him.

    I’m glad he wrote an article that touched you but he undone that with his latest blunders.

  3. Justine says:

    Point about Reilly well taken. Agreed.

    But it doesn’t detract from the Hoyts’ story.

  4. Bobby says:

    BIG Kahuna: Love him or hate him, Rick Reilly makes many wayward comments, but his honesty is what his readers appreciate. His all star game comment was “This is like a Kiwanis club meeting,” which even I thought was funny, considering the best hitters in MLB didn’t participate in the HR derby.

    Moving on, Hoyt’s tale is undeniably unbelievable. Literally and figuratively moving people, indeed.

    Here’s an update on Team Hoyt: http://www.teamhoyt.com/

  5. libby says:

    Fortunately for most of us, the point of Justine’s story will be taken for what she posted it for: inspiration.

    Now, anyone up for a mid-morning jog?

  6. Zachary says:

    That story and movie is amazing. I have used it in the leadership camp that I used to teach at. It’s always tough to move on with the discussion after the clip is over.

    Moving people is definitely a major part of communicating and connecting with others.

    Thanks for the reminder Justine.

  7. Mr. Steve says:

    To read this on the day that Randy Pausch (of Last Lecture fame) passes away…really puts the little things in perspective. It’s hard to fret about a past-due power bill, or writer’s block when you see stories like this. Thanks Justine.

  8. BIG Kahuna says:

    I didn’t mean to rain on your parade so to speak. And being from Boston I’ve watched him push that wheel chair every year.

    I’m just so pissed that Rick Reilly has become what he has. Hence my quick reply to this post. It’s really to bad, he should stick to writing and less of offending.

    But that doesn’t take away from the article already published for sure.

  9. john moore (from Brand Autopsy) says:

    Scott (aka BIG Kahuna) … I do not agree with everything a columnist like Rick Reilly says. (I also do not agree with everything a blogger may say.)

    The Team Hoyt story has received a lot of well-deserved attention. A father going above and beyond to bring joy to his son is a story I will never tire of.

    I’m the type of person who can look past the messenger and focus more on the message.

    Rick Reilly, as a messenger, clued me in on how nearly 3,000 kids die a day in Africa from Malaria. These deaths, as Rick has written about, can be drastically reduced by up to 60% if mosquito bed nets were used.

    Rick joined a mosquito bed net campaign and created NOTHING BUT NETS. Through his readership, NOTHING BUT NETS has raised enough money to send 20,000,000 mosquito nets to Africa. Wonderful story. Google “Rick Reilly Nothing But Nets” for more.

    Thanks Justine for reminding me of the Team Hoyt story. I had forgotten about it. What a shame. That’s a beautiful father/son story I should never forget.

  10. Billy says:

    I love this story. And I love Rick Reilly. Not for what he believes, but for what he does. He’s a great writer. He may not be a great “character,” but what he does moves people… and that’s something that deserves applause, I think.

    And the Hoyt’s… and Randy Pausch… Talk about “traveling a million miles in a thousand years…” Unreal.

  11. Richard Langford UK says:

    I gave up smoking two days ago because my three year old son had been telling me how dirty it is to smoke… There comes a time in your life a three year old kid know best! I was just about to give in and buy some from a nearby shop until I saw this article.

    First time I’ve heard this story. Cheers.

  12. David says:

    …count to 10, think if you’ve got a valid comment… and then type & post it.

    Don’t hijack the incredible story of an incredible parent by turning it into an in-valid comment about the behavior of the author otherwise you’ll end up corrupting the point.

    The story is the phenomenal inspiring point.

    Thanks Justine.

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